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TRAINING
know the effect you experience, especially suggest 5 minutes each. This will bring several
when you have been interrupted, but it may be a differences out in the open and the next step
positive experience also. is to agree which ones to work on together,
using the communication skill discussed above,
Feedback always starts with an “I’ statement. paraphrasing, “I” statements, and feedback.
“I feel frustrated when I tell you something
personal and you take the subject away and Negotiate a resolution that both agree on and
interject an experience of yours.” put that particular issue to bed. Of course any
promises made must be honored.
The important elements are “I feel” and ‘when
you”. This way of communicating avoids blame or In any relationship we all bring something new.
accusing the other of wrongdoing, thus feeling Good ways of communicating can embellish and
defensive, but it encourages being receptive to lead to a mutually enriching relationship with
hearing the error which is often an unconscious positive skills to resolve differences and share
way of communicating probably from old experiences.
patterns learned in childhood. When a person
is defensive, the ability to hear and be willing to I strongly recommend beginning to teach good
change is gone. communication skills in kindergarten and in
every grade thereafter. Such classes should
Non-verbal ways to communicate are beyond the be as an important part of the curriculum
scope of this article, however they are important as reading, writing and arithmetic. Also,
ways to give and receive information. universities must teach student teachers these
skills. Not only is poor communication the
Conflict resolution can be challenging but cause of failed relationships in families, but also
necessary when opposing points of view prevail in International relationships. Languages are
in a relationship. Negotiating for a good time to barriers enough, but conveying ideas, treaties,
work on problem solving is a good idea. if both agreements are all critical to good relations
are ready and willing to set time aside and are between diplomats and nations. Positive and
willing to work on differences. effective communication has been too long
overlooked and a critical way that we share
Next, set some basic rules. I recommend that who we are, but also get to know and respect
each person take an allotted time to talk others. The world would be a better place and
without interruption and the other person relationships would be better if we had better
listen actively, even take notes if both agree. I skills to interact with one another.
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