Personality conflict may be something more
- by Joan Lloyd
![]() I have two employees who have a major personality conflict. One is a new employee who is young and eager to get ahead and the other is a long-term employee, who has been in her job for over fifteen years. The problem is that the older one wonât share what she knows. I have told her she needs to train the younger employee but at every turn the younger person is stonewalled or only told just so muchânot given the whole picture. The issue has become a major concern because the body of work that the older employee has control over is growing in volume, to the point that she can no longer do the job alone. In addition, I think we are vulnerable as a company if she doesnât have a back-up person trained. When I have discussed this in the past with the employee, she claims that itâs just too complicated, or she has such a big workload that she canât find time to train anyone. I have repeatedly explained that this is a catch-twenty-two. If she doesnât make the time to train someone it will just get worse. An additional factor is that we are going to be computerizing some of the older employeeâs area and I can already tell that she is threatened and resistant. When I push her she tells me that the new person just isnât reliable enough and isnât paying attention to all the details. She complains that the new employee isnât able to learn the job and she is making serious mistakes. Frankly, I think she is overstating this and that it is just an excuse. Any suggestions? Answer: There may be several things at work here. First, the senior employee may indeed feel threatened. But it may help to dig a little deeper to understand her resistance. Then, you may be able to get her to cooperate. Ideally, you wonât have to force her with a heavy hand. This employee probably has a great deal of pride about her work. After all, sheâs been the only one with that expertise, and to share that may feel like a big loss. In addition, she may feel that she is not appreciated, since others seem to be wrestling away her source of accomplishment and self-worth. I think youâll make more progress if you appeal to that pride. Hereâs what Iâd recommend. Schedule a conversation with the senior employee to have a heart to heart discussion about her concerns. Make sure you give her past work ample acknowledgement and tell her that her expertise makes her the ideal person to take a leadership role and mentor the new employee. Itâs important that she understands why her expertise must be shared. Reassure her about her role after the new person is trained, so she doesnât think you are trying to replace her. Ask for her help in the context that the company needs her help to figure out a way to mentor the new employee so she can learn the job without making serious mistakes. Listen carefully to her suggestions. Itâs entirely possible that she doesnât really have a clue about how to train someone. She may have learned the job over time, so feels that itâs impossible to teach someone everything. You may need to help her break it down into manageable pieces.
While this may be more involvement than you would like to have, it might be necessary to make sure this information is transferred quickly and accurately. If this approach doesnât work, you will need to force the issue and make it clear that the senior employee is putting her job at risk by not cooperating in this important effort. In cases where the employee refuses to share what she knows, you are often better off without herâeven if it means people have to scramble to pick up the pieces. Coaching can be as difficult to deliver as negative feedback. Well-delivered praise is specific and thanks the person for what he or she did. If appropriate, it also ties their action to the goal. Joan Lloydâs How to Coach & Give Feedback learning system will teach you the âartâ of delivering effective coaching and feedback that gets results! Now available in CD! |
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