shirley.haworth
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« on: December 11, 2008, 12:53:34 pm » |
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Had your boss ever blamed you for one of his mistakes, when you never made the mistake in the first place.
Do you take it as another aspect of the role or does it infuriate you beyond belief.
My soon to be ex boss gave me verbal instructions which I carried out which caused quite a lot of annoyance to our sister company. On hearing of the upset he claimed he never said it. Cant describe how angry I feel right now. Ive dealt with the "..oh my secretary never passed on the message before and usualy take that on the chin, even when I have actually passed on the stupid message, but this...grrr
Keep on truckin...
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gee4
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« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2008, 01:35:39 pm » |
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Indirectly. I guess it's part of any job but if someone cannot own up to a mistake it's rather unprofessional.
We can't record or document everything, so on some occasions there will be times when you have no proof he/she did/said this or that.
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happyclappy
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« Reply #2 on: December 11, 2008, 01:50:10 pm » |
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It's not only unprofessional, it is also rather silly and childish. Part of being a grown-up is the ability to admit one's own failings.
A manager in a past job blamed me for something that went wrong and that she had sanctioned. I was appalled and raised it in my appraisal. It never happened again. Fortunately, I'm working in an environment and with people who are generally extremely truthful and have a high degree of integrity.
The thing is that your reputation is built up over time, yet it can be destroyed in an instant.
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viviennenoyle
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« Reply #3 on: December 11, 2008, 03:33:15 pm » |
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Not in this job (not that I've found out about, anyway), but in my old job it happened a lot as my boss was one to take credit for anything good even when she hadn't done the work, but would always try to avoid the blame for things that went wrong.
On one particularly memorable occasion, something hadn't been filed (with a patent office) and it caused a lot of trouble for the client. She then blamed me to two partners, and then dictated a document to be filed with the unfiled one, explaining why it was late. I had to type this document, and was horrified to see that she had blamed me for the mistake in a formal document that was to be filed with the patent office in question. At no stage and in no way had I ever been at fault, she just couldn't admit to her superiors or the client that she had made such a bad mistake.
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shirley.haworth
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« Reply #4 on: December 11, 2008, 04:54:52 pm » |
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Ah thats awful re the patent, how did you deal with it.
Ive tried taking him to one side and asking him why he has lied, it just made me more upset. He told me its a mis-communication on my part...the nerve of him.
Keep on truckin...
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viviennenoyle
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« Reply #5 on: December 11, 2008, 05:55:41 pm » |
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As with everything else that happened there (it was a very bad office), I internalised it! I discovered early on there was no point saying anything, as the partner in charge of the office made all the right noises but never did anything. In the end, I saved it all up for my exit interview in the hopes that I could make things better for the girls I was leaving behind.
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happyclappy
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« Reply #6 on: December 11, 2008, 06:06:30 pm » |
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In such a case I would not have typed the document and would have said I wasn't going to type it. If she then had said I had to I would have enquired whether she was instructing me to do so and therefore instructing me to collude in a falsehood.
It's all academic now as it is over for you Vivienne. I'm only posting this in case it helps anyone in a similar fix: you don't have to do what you are instructed if you are being asked to collude in a lie or something criminal.
I hope the exit interview went well and that there were suitably red faces!
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peaches2160
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« Reply #7 on: December 12, 2008, 02:14:36 am » |
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My boss is a big boy and takes responsibility. It's part of being a professional and he has alot of respect from his team. He is not one to berate someone for making a mistake either. I have worked with folks that do not take responsiblity, blame others and it is a miserable situation to be in.
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viviennenoyle
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« Reply #8 on: December 12, 2008, 03:17:47 pm » |
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The exit interview was my favourite part of my two and a half years there! I was able to finally tell someone from head office exactly what had been going on, the bullying, lying, taking credit for other people's work, everything. Within a matter of months of me leaving, two other secretaries (without reference to each other) complained about the bullying carried out by my former boss, and she was disciplined accordingly. She left shortly after that. Although I wouldn't say it was revenge, as it never could have happened if it wasn't for her behaviour, it did make me feel better even though I was no longer in that situation. After all, the only thing about leaving that I felt bad about, was leaving the other secretaries to deal with her - they were friends, and I didn't think they deserved it!
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peaches2160
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« Reply #9 on: December 13, 2008, 03:18:10 am » |
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I try to tolerate folks like that. I've see it too many times, they never last.
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lulu7
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« Reply #10 on: December 16, 2008, 05:31:06 pm » |
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I would say something to my boss, even if he blames you, he knows what the truth is. I would call him out on it and it would make me feel better.
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