Message #46197

[JessW]

Patphi

I am sorry that you are in this situation.  I have had similar encouters which happily for me did no real damage to myself (one is still on-going and the other could still backfire but for the fact the secretaries are meant to be the 'keeper of the secrets' - teehee).

I would recommend that you find / chose as neutral a boss type as you can find.  Keep that person briefed as to what is said, done, written etc and make it abundantly clear that you are neutral in this matter.  You can and will still support in a professional manner all parties concerned, but that you have no opinion in this matter as it is theoretically none of your business.  You are hired to do a job of work and please to let you do just that.

I know that sounds callous and very much jobs-worth but you were not hired to play one boss against another or to chose between your boss, your job and the company that pays your wages.

Do nothing / say nothing that if it were overheard by a third (possibly biased) party could be used against you.

This is how I would deal with the matter.  You should however use such means that make you feel comfortable as only you know the whole story from your perspective.

Good luck and let us know if you need to talk, how it goes etc.

Jess