Message #21737

[lioness70]

I haven't posted here in a long time, but I know firsthand how you're feeling.  It did, partially, cost me my job.  I was the one working as a part-time admin last year.  I couldn't make the distinction between being a mommy and being an employee.  I admit that I was not taking the job seriously because I really didn't want to be working again.  I was complaining about the same things you were-they wouldn't let me leave early during snowstorms to take the baby home safely, they didn't like me calling to check up on the baby, even if I did it rarely.  I agree with the poster who said that employers should cut new moms some slack, but the fact is, many of them don't, and this one didn't.  In the end, everyone got their wish.  They got someone who didn't have the usual kid hassles (all the other AAs in that office had grown or no kids-that should have been a red flag to me), and I returned home to be with my son.  In fact, I got pregnant again duing the run of that job, and I doubt they would have kept me on after the baby (a girl, born in early December) was born.  I agree with everyone else-even if your heart isn't in the job, you have to hide your true feelings and be a professional if you want to keep the job.  It's not advice I could follow, because I really wanted to be with my babies, but unfortunately, that's the way the business world is.  They need to keep running, whether you're a mom or not.