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« on: October 03, 2006, 11:54:19 am » |
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Well, the accusations have gone, but the back-stabbing continues apace.
I popped in to see the agency that got me this gig and they told me she had said I was upsetting the other secretaries in my group (not true as we work well together! their words not mine), so I told agency bod the rest and was recommended I resigned.
I handed my notice in this morning and, guess what, she was as nice as pie.
One month to go and I am out. I feel so relieved it will soon be over and I can find my real job.
Wish me luck in the meantime and even more luck finding a new job - anyone need a secretary?
Jess
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« Reply #1 on: October 03, 2006, 12:32:21 pm » |
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Hi Jess
I hadn't commented on your original post as you had a lot of good advice there and there was nothing I felt I could add. I am so sorry this hasn't worked out for you but I think you are doing the right thing in resigning. Of course the woman in question was nice - whatever her motive for the original accusation, she seems to have got her way in getting shot of you.
Having awful things like that said about you is so hurtful, esp. if you don't know the reason behind it - or even if you did know and even if there is a reason.
The very best of luck in finding something new and even better.
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emma138
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« Reply #2 on: October 03, 2006, 12:51:30 pm » |
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I don't agree with the agency's advice but if you feel happier then it was probably the right decision for you. I do think you should make sure you have an unblemished HR record before you leave the company: were the accusations recorded anywhere? If so you should make sure there is a written retraction recorded alongside it. Perhaps you should try and get something on file to counteract the allegations this woman's made about your working relationship with other staff.
It seems to me that you would have a strong case for constructive dismissal though I understand that you would probably prefer to put this behind you.
Good luck with the job search. Things can only get better!
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« Reply #3 on: October 03, 2006, 01:24:55 pm » |
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It appears, then, that this person is saying one thing to you (alleging you are dishonest) and another to the agency (alleging you are uncomfortable to work with).
I think you have made the right decision about leaving as it would be impossible for you to work with such a person.You may wish to consider, however, taking this further to clear your name.
This is a game that this person is playing with you, and although I am not a betting woman, I would wager a great deal that she has done this before. Dealing with her nastiness is not the issue here; clearing your name is the important thing.
Either way, this person has damaged you quite thoroughly. On the one hand she has made a certain allegation - wholly unsubstantiated - to your face which will no doubt be repeated to select people in your company, "well ... there WAS talk about such-and-such a thing. We couldn't prove anything, but she left fairly quickly ..." To the agency she has said you don't get on with your colleagues - which may damage your chances with them. Again this is unsubstantiated, but still damaging.
London is a much smaller place than many people think, and the legal community, from my experience, is quite tightly-knit and things get around, particularly when one works at a certain level.
You may, of course, be just looking forward to going and never seeing Ms Back-Stabber again, and chalking this up (or down) to experience. Whatever you decide to do, Jess, I wish you the best of luck in finding a new and better job.
Best wishes,
Raindance
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JessW
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« Reply #4 on: October 03, 2006, 01:25:18 pm » |
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Emma,
Thanks for the kind words and lucky for my future record nothing was ever put in writing. It was purely verbal bitching.
As for constructive dismissal I admit it, I am spineless. I could have also taken my previous bosses to Employment Tribunal but it was just too much. And I cannot see myself actually doing anything about it in the future either.
Jess (never rains but it pours)!
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« Reply #5 on: October 03, 2006, 02:41:48 pm » |
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Jess, before you clear out, definitely touch base with HR, or whomever keeps your personnel file, and make SURE that nothing was put in writing in it. Even though you were not told that anything was being put in writing does not mean that some e-mail or other snippet in writing wasn't slipped into your file. As back-stabbing as this person is/was, I wouldn't want to leave this to chance. Sounds like something she might just try and if she has friends in the right areas, you wouldn't know until it's too late if you don't look now.
And if you do find something in writing, definitely get a retraction or counter in writing too. And if it's something about your stealing from the previous company, I'd really look to taking legal action as it's bad enough to spread rumors verbally, but when it's in writing too it's doubly hazardous to your professional image. I'm with some of the others who think that leaving is making it too easy on this person... you really should take legal action, but if it's not your style, then I can understand not doing so. I just hate to think of this supervisor being left un-checked and worry what she'll do to the next person in your shoes. Hopefully they'll have a group like this site to help them through the situation, if it arises. All you can do is be true to you.
As for the 'don't get along well with others' idea... talk to your fellow secretaries and perhaps get a statement from one as the lead, or several of them individually (in writing) stating that you worked well together, were a team player, etc, etc... Even if it's not needed to counter anything Back-Stabber has said or says, it can't hurt to have those recommendations from Peers when going for interviews. Can you see it? "How do you know that you're a team player?" "Well, Mr. Interviewer... I've always gotten along well with others, and have some statements from my previous teammates that support this." Could be a good thing.
Good luck in your job hunt... and hopefully the real right job will be out there for you. Keep us informed!
Hugs,
CountriGal
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« Reply #6 on: October 04, 2006, 09:18:54 am » |
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Jess, First of all I am soooo sorry. Secondly I am in shock - cannot believe this has happened. Surey you are the victim here of a rumour that is unsupported. I know I have experienced a minor situation here (which believe me is nothing compared to yours), but I do wish you all the best and I know you will find something better very soon. If you need to moan/chat you know where we are!  G |
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« Reply #7 on: October 04, 2006, 09:18:54 am » |
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Jess, First of all I am soooo sorry. Secondly I am in shock - cannot believe this has happened. Surey you are the victim here of a rumour that is unsupported. I know I have experienced a minor situation here (which believe me is nothing compared to yours), but I do wish you all the best and I know you will find something better very soon. If you need to moan/chat you know where we are! G |
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JessW
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« Reply #8 on: October 04, 2006, 09:55:52 am » |
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Gee, thanks for the (continued) support. I appreciate it from everyone here (anyone need a good word said I am here!).
As for the unsubstantiated rumour, it is more of back-stabbing bitchiness really for whichthe only real solution is to not engage and walk away.
At least she accepted my resignation!
Jess
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