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« on: December 19, 2001, 02:43:07 pm » |
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I had resurected the "Bossie "resigned" yesterday" thread and added this update, but maybe no one paid it any attention since it was an old thread, so I'm making it a new thread. I'd like your opinion on this. Well, my new boss has been hired... I just found out by receiving an e-mail from the dean, which was addressed to everyone at the school as well. In other words, I wasn't told ahead of time, I found out by reading my e-mail, just like everyone else did. Nice, huh? This after I had spoken to the dean yesterday when we bumped into each other in the kitchen, and she had said she would probably know by the end of the day and I would be the first one to know, as I am the one most impacted by the decision. Yeah, right - thanks a lot for informing me! And I was at my dest until 5:30 yesterday - no "couldn't find you" excuse!
Besides that I'm not happy with the new person coming in. Not anything about her in particular, but that the whole hiring process of accepting applications (I have on good authority) was a CMA kind of thing, and the person coming in had already been hand-picked before bossie "resigned." And one more thing - someone who works in her area had said about a month ago "If it's who I think it is, I certainly won't miss her," and then she remembered that I was there and tried to back pedal really quick.
Oh, I realize that much of this may be an emotional response, as I've been wanting to run away lately, but the fact doesn't change that I learned who my new boss would be via a group e-mail.
DonnaP99
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raindance
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« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2001, 03:19:16 pm » |
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Dear Donna
I am sorry you have had this experience - not pleasant. You could reply to the email (I would!) and say you are grateful to have received it but you are sorry that you were simply informed along with everyone else. It's very insensitive and tactless. It's really rather unprofessional and not good management. But then, I am aware that some people just don't know how to behave - either professionally or socially!
That said, when your new manager takes up her post, you should adopt the "start as I mean to go on" approach. Welcome her, ask to meet with her and discuss what she expects of you etc. But take a firm line too. You may, in fact, be surprised to find you and your new manager get on together. After all - she has to get on with you too.
Fingers and toes crossed for you.
Best wishes
Raindance
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radaro
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« Reply #2 on: December 19, 2001, 04:30:59 pm » |
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Donna - Been there, done that twice!
If it is any consolation, my current boss is the one that I, initially, was most upset about having to work for. He was catapulted into the position because he was close friends with the then CEO. Turns out that he has been my best boss to date!
Try to get past the crappy way that you found out about your new boss. This is in the past and not necessarily your new boss's fault.
Go in with an open mind and you may be surprised. Perhaps the other person who "will not be sad to see her go" had personal reasons that they could not get along. Close out these and other negitive comments.
Remember the rule of 21. It takes 21 days to get used to change. If after 21 days, there is still a problem, then it is something other than the change.
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donnap99
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« Reply #3 on: January 23, 2002, 02:07:53 pm » |
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Well, new bossie started yesterday. She doesn't have a third eye on her forehead, invited me to have lunch with her, doesn't seem to be put off by getting her hands dirty (we're moving our offices - she asked where to get her boxes), ... all in all, for the first day, things are OK... I'll keep y'all posted! DonnaP99 |
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« Reply #4 on: January 23, 2002, 03:06:10 pm » |
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Glad to hear everything's starting off ok. I've got my fingers crossed for you.
Ellen in TX
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radaro
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« Reply #5 on: January 23, 2002, 05:01:58 pm » |
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Donna - The fact that you found out at the same time that everyone else did is now history. You have to finish with that, close the book on it and move forward.
What everyone else's opinion is about your new boss doesn't really matter either. What matters is what your opinion is about your new boss. Try not to let other people's opinions colour the way you react to your new boss.
If I let other people's opinion colour my reaction to my "new" boss two years ago, I would have quit my job and missed out on the most exciting two years of my job. In the mean time, my boss and I have forged a great relationship. My boss has now moved on to a new department and brought me along with him. In addition, he has given me a new role (partner relations manager) and new responsibilities that no one else would have given me a chance at. While I'm not saying every new boss will be great, I'm just saying give her a chance.
Close the past and get on with your future.
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radaro
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« Reply #6 on: January 23, 2002, 05:05:16 pm » |
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I just realized that my post just, for the most part, reiterated what I wrote last time. But it is really obvious to me that you can't let go of the lousy way that you found out about your boss otherwise you wouldn't have reposted.
Let go of it. Hanging on to the past does not work. Learn from the past, remember it but don't hang on to it. Life is too short.
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goldenearring
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« Reply #7 on: January 24, 2002, 04:38:35 am » |
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You're right, Karen. I remember a teaching Joyce Meyer did called "Shaking Off Serpents." I think you get the drift, Donna. Maybe this will be the best possible new beginning you and your new boss can have. She may need as much space and as much understanding as you do right now. It IS an opportunity; how you both use it will determine your future happiness. If you decide to hold the grudge, I recall another phrase Joyce Meyer uses: "One more time around the mountain." It took the Israelites 40 years to make an 11-13 day journey to their Promised Land. Don't let a serpent called "It ain't supposed to happen this way to me," slow you down on the way to yours! Jeri
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donnap99
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« Reply #8 on: January 24, 2002, 02:07:35 pm » |
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Oh, no, I didn't mean to bring up that past issue by pulling up the old thread.... only wanted to continue the same "new boss" thing. I guess I should have started a new thread. With thanks to y'all's good advice, I did put that notification thing in the past. She had nothing to do with it. But there is a problem, and it's not with her. One of the directors who reports to her, and who had applied for the job (but wasn't even given a courtesy interview), has such a negative attitude! I've already decided that I'm going to distance myself from him, and hope that because of his obvious attitude, she doesn't think we all feel the same. You guys are great support! DonnaP99 |
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donnap99
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« Reply #9 on: January 24, 2002, 03:36:47 pm » |
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Oy. Now the fun starts... she wants me to screen her calls. I haven't had to do this in the 6 years I've been here, and was probably the one most un-favorite duties at my previous job! ARGHH!!! DonnaP99 |
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« Reply #10 on: January 25, 2002, 03:33:41 pm » |
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Pro-active methods needed here!
Make a note of how much time you spend screening her calls. Then go to her and suggest that the two and a half hours would be better spent in doing X and perhaps she would like to consider voicemail or an ansaphone she can hear messages on or caller ID.
This one is a nasty situation. You may need to make the point that if you answer the phone, the caller will take it that the message reaches her and there is little benefit in you being a human voicemail.
Bethalize
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goldenearring
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« Reply #11 on: January 25, 2002, 03:58:03 pm » |
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I say, just screen the calls. What better way to find out what's going on and stay on top of things? Unless she's getting 75+ calls a day, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal unless she's asking you never to be away from your desk, too, so that you can do this screening stuff. How are you two ever going to get off on the right foot if, right off the bat, you're resisting helping her in the way that she wants to be helped?
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