Message #68038

[msmarieh]

I definitely don't agree. I think everyone deserves the opportunity to defend themselves from accusations. If the answer were not satisfactory or if they continued doing the negative action, I would then escalate it to HR, where I could explain that I had tried to resolve the issue directly with the employee in question.

When I said more negative things might be said, I didn't mean that someone had to sit and be abused for an hour. However, the fact of the matter is, sometimes people say things that sound negative, but in fact are truthful. We may not like what they have to say, but if we want to address the situation, we may have to face the bad with the good so that the whole issue gets resolved.

If I am going to tell someone to come to me when they have a problem with me rather than talking to co-workers, then I'd better be prepared to listen to what their problem is with me. Sometimes that means I hear things that I don't like, but that doesn't mean it isn't good for me to hear those things, since it can help me grow as a person and improve my character and how I interact with other people.

Marie
Peer Moderator