I know you would rather not put your parents in a nursing home so I will not suggest that.



However, I do think you should consider hiring a full-time nurse to live with your parents because it sounds like they require a lot of care and you can't provide that because you work.



It's better than losing your job because you take "too much time off" to care for them.



This way you can rest easy knowing they are getting the attention they need by a professional.



If you don't, your marriage may suffer. You're spending most of your time looking after your parents when you have a life to live too.